Now you do get good stress, but it is actually bad stress handled good. We should not feel stress to perform, it is not needed to have stress as a motivating factor. We CAN create new, better motivational factors in our lives.
Why do we feel stress then?
We stress because we have a perceived fear of the outcome. We fear we are not capable to carry out the task successfully. This however is just a perception.
Example: A college at work was stressing about a task that needed to be performed. He was inexperienced and was fearing the act, possibly the fear of rejection underlying the stress. Because he had never done this before, the fear of rejection caused him to stress whether he is capable to carry out the task.
I on the other hand did not stress about it because i have done it before numerous times.
So where is the difference? It is not the task, because i could carry out the task without stress. Its not my rank, because I could carry out the task in my previous held position.
It was the perceived idea that he could fail. The self believe was not strong enough to overcome the stress of the situation
Now, if stress is as a result of a fear, and a fear can be overcome, then there is no reason to stress. Just like the old saying, can you do something about? If yes, then do it and dont stress. If no, then dont stress.
Work on your fears and your stress will decrease to a point where you are the master of your life and you decide whether to feel stress or not.
At the end of the day, if you do not work to master your life, life will master you. You have the power to choose your outcomes. You must just decide what your outcomes must be.
That is the power and importance of self development, self improvement and/or self mastery, i like the latter more, SELF MASTERY. yah
We all are aloud to feel wonderful every single day. The majority of people unfortunately chose to feel bad, miserable and blaming every day. A possible reason is that they do not want to take control of their life to this full extend.
Life is a choice, enjoy the journey.
We stress because we have a perceived fear of the outcome. We fear we are not capable to carry out the task successfully. This however is just a perception.
Example: A college at work was stressing about a task that needed to be performed. He was inexperienced and was fearing the act, possibly the fear of rejection underlying the stress. Because he had never done this before, the fear of rejection caused him to stress whether he is capable to carry out the task.
I on the other hand did not stress about it because i have done it before numerous times.
So where is the difference? It is not the task, because i could carry out the task without stress. Its not my rank, because I could carry out the task in my previous held position.
It was the perceived idea that he could fail. The self believe was not strong enough to overcome the stress of the situation
Now, if stress is as a result of a fear, and a fear can be overcome, then there is no reason to stress. Just like the old saying, can you do something about? If yes, then do it and dont stress. If no, then dont stress.
Work on your fears and your stress will decrease to a point where you are the master of your life and you decide whether to feel stress or not.
At the end of the day, if you do not work to master your life, life will master you. You have the power to choose your outcomes. You must just decide what your outcomes must be.
That is the power and importance of self development, self improvement and/or self mastery, i like the latter more, SELF MASTERY. yah
We all are aloud to feel wonderful every single day. The majority of people unfortunately chose to feel bad, miserable and blaming every day. A possible reason is that they do not want to take control of their life to this full extend.
Life is a choice, enjoy the journey.
I totally agree! Happiness is choice ☺ Keep up the great work Francois
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