Now this is not a trick question. Have you ever thought of who you admire and would like to strive top be or have some of the character traits?
What about Mr Bean? would you not like to be that never-minded and find joy in everything?
What about James Bond, or Donald Trump :)
Its very good to have idols to strive to improve yourself. Even if its only 1 trait you are after.
Why is this important? Well, if you do not strive for more, you will be the same person in 10 years. You will get angry at the same things, you will get upset and agitated at the same things. and if you share a life with someone, then they have to bear this for the nexrt 10 years at least.
One important thing about idols is, they give you confidence that it is achievable. Most peoples idols are and have been their parents all of their lives, which is not bad. However, you do not know anything else.
Example: if you lived in a poor family, as a child you did not see this as poor, but rather a way of life. Only until you were older and realized that other people have different stuff. At the young age you do not realise what causes other people to have either more or less than you, you think thats the way it is.
But it is not, yay. You can do something about it.
Because you only knew your parents way of doing things you will do the same thing. You will most likely get angry at the same type of stuff your farther or mother gets angry for, you will most likely earn the same as one of your parents etc. They created your blueprint for life.
So, by seeing other people that has achieved your desired state or results, it gives you the confidence to pursue it.
The closer the idol is to your situation/circumstance, i.e. came from a broken home, were a drop out, were abused etc, the more the their message will hit home with you.
So its good to have an idol and see what character traits you admire and would like in your life.
Now here comes the most interesting and powerful part.
What if your idol in 10 years time is...YOU!!
Is that not a wonderful idea? Start thinking, who do i want to be in 10 years?
Wright it in detail, every aspect. You dont need to complete this exercise in 1 go. Build this profile over your lifetime.
How do i want to deal with anger? Will it still be in my life in 10 years?
How would i deal with depression? Will it still be in my life?
How will i treat people around me, loved ones and strangers? Will i be nice to everybody and expect love back from them?
Will i be a state of gratitude, love and joy? Or, an even greater state than im currently enjoying.
What type of friends will i have? Are they conducive for my goals and family goals?
How is my family relationships?
This will go on and on...
The secret is to visualize your desired state vividly. Writing helps with this as you get more detail out of your brain if you write than if you just sit and think, also less though distractions.
Refer again to visualization vs fantasizing.
https://journeytoinnerfulfillment.blogspot.com/2018/09/goal-achievement-visualization-vs.html
Write this everyday, and expanding a bit every time. This will build your profile of you your ideal person would be in 10 years. The daily writing also keeps you reminded of that person and keeps the vision fresh. If you miss this, your vision will go back to what you know and your brain will come up with excuses why this is a bad exercise and does not work, just to feel safe in your comfort zone.
Now the trick comes in. Trusting that you wrote this in complete detail on how you would act in situations, how you would portray your love and passion and joy to how you want to feel at work.
Now you take that complete 'profile',every step and action you take in given situations, and you bring it forward to now.
Instead of seeing it in 10 years, bring it to the now, and start living like the person you envisioned in 10 years. Be the loving and supportive farther and husband. Be the person who do not get angry anymore but rather converts the anger into learning. Be the person who do not stress, who do not suffer from a state like depression, be the love you want for the world.
Now this seems all simple. How would that work. It just does. Imagine waking up ion the morning and feeling like your 'idol' instead of how you currently feel? (Assuming you wake up in less than a grateful and joyousness state)
Successful, accomplished, content, trusted, abundance.
Imagine feeling all these wonderful emotions without feeling guilt for having them?
Imagine your life was perfect, for you?
Imagine...
Enjoy this exercise and keep it going intensely for 1 month everyday and you will feel the difference after one month. Your thought pattern will change, you will have less angry thoughts and more thoughts inline with what you want. What would have been angry or depressed thoughts, are now thought of what you created, love or acceptance or learning.
For lasting results, carry on for 3 months, and then never stop.
Do not think this is taking time from your life. if you do not plan your life to this extend, you will have to be carried by the wind in any direction. Dont be afraid to plan YOU. Be you, be the best version of you.
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