Can I use my sex energy to achieve my goals?

By the end of this read, you will have an understanding of what sex transmutation is, how to practice it and what you can expect.

 

What is sex transmutation and what does it mean for me?

Sex transmutation is re-directing the mind from thoughts of physical expression to thoughts of another creative effort. 

Transmuting your sexual energy, at its most potent form, involves abstaining from all sexual activity or content, whether it is sex, masturbation or pornography and harnessing this energy for other endeavours.

 

One of the first people who has spoken about sex transmutation is Napoleon Hill in his book “Think and Grow rich.” Which I would highly recommend reading and studying.

The concept of sex transmutation is foreign and somewhat difficult to get our heads wrapped around, especially in today’s world where there is so much emphasis placed on sex, beauty and arousal.

In this article, we will break it down a bit, we discuss the experience of practicing sex transmutation and what to expect when practising it. The thoughts and feelings.

 

(This is written from a males perspective and results may vary for females 😊 lets open this discussion to learn)

 

So, lets get into it. 😉

 

 

Sex is not new to us, after all, that is how we came to be here.

Believe it or not, sexual energy is extremely potent. Try working while you are thinking of sex. It is very distracting. If you are thinking about sex with someone else other than your partner, then you are adding some extra emotions and intentions to the equation, like guilt, resentment, insecurity, coveting, lust, unfaithful and many more. These emotions are better left uninvited. We live in a world where we are bombarded with sexual innuendos in our media and advertising. Sexual images of beautiful people, arousing sounds and colours, these all have an impact on our subconscious thinking and behaviour. We can see the result of this in our current lives and environments. It almost seems like people have forgotten who and what they are. It is almost as if people have been taken over by their sexual urges and desires, and worst is that people think it is natural.

 

“Normal does not equal natural”

 

Thinking about sex a lot distracts you from what is important. It builds false ideas about love and relationships and is probably the greatest cause of failed relationships. A relationship is not just about sex, especially if sex is used incorrectly. Sex should be used to build stronger love, not to release stress or for pleasure alone. If you need sex for that, then you are doing something wrong. Rather change your diet and exercise for stress relieve.

Watching porn is the greatest downfall of our modern world. Seeing naked people affects our subconscious mind, it triggers thoughts and feelings that we do not consciously choose, therefore it takes control over us. It then leads to the release of energy in a manner not fully intended too. Example, it’s better to think about your loved ones and expand the love for them than to watch other people have sex. The time you spent watching porn is time lost, the energy you spent on watching porn is energy lost. This time and energy should be directed to your goals, visions and desires.

 

It takes about 3 days for an adult male in his 30s to regain his energy (focus and intention) after releasing his sexual energy through masturbation. This does not mean it takes 3 days before you can have sex again, it takes about 3 days for you to regain full control over yourself, your focus and your feelings and the ability to direct your intentions.

This focus, feeling and intentions are in line with your goals. If you don’t have goals, then having sex or masturbating a lot is probably part of your regular routine. Identifiable by frustration.

 

 

Winners do not sit at home masturbating because they can’t get the guy or girl. Winners work on themselves, get better and go out and make it happen.

 

‘Where attention goes, energy flows’

 

This statement is very true and can be clearly noticed when it comes to sex and sexual thoughts, especially in men. Thinking with our second brain.. 😊

Sex transmutation comes perfectly with this statement. If you notice your attention going to your groin area or the ‘gutters’, then pull it out immediately to something more productive. That’s why it is important to have strong goals and desires. Use that time to design your perfect life, plan actions and act on those plans. (This is sexual transmutation in a nutshell)

 

 

Our sex drive is one of our most potent forces we have access to.

Because our sex drive is such a powerful energy, thinking of sex almost makes us unconscious. We don’t really think anymore, we are led by our urges and desires.

 

Thinking of sex or an attractive person in a sexual way distracts our mind from what can be important. Sexual thoughts or fantasies can occupy our mind for long periods of times, hours and sometimes days, lingering in the subconscious mind and noticing everything sexy and attractive in your eyesight’s. That is wasted time that could have been used somewhere else more meaningful. Think about it, you sit at the office, fantasising about your attractive co-worker. This is distracting you from your work. All good and well, it’s just a job at a company. But it really gets you when you are self-employed or an entrepreneur where every minute counts.

 

Have you noticed that after you had sex that the drive and ambition to ‘achieve’ has left you? (Excuse the pun)

 

That is time and energy you could have used to build your business, get new ideas, or make those phone calls that you need some ‘balls’ to do. (Some more puns 😊)

 

Porn is for losers, winners go out and get what they want to experience.

 

Today we have access to more naked people than any time in history at a click of a button. Even Casanova, who was revered as being very popular with the ladies in the 1700’s, never saw as many naked women as we have access to today on the internet.

There are strong psychological triggers in our brains that gets triggered when we see naked people. Studies have shown that seeing images of naked people release dopamine in the brain, the pleasure chemical. Part of this is due to our need to reproduce. If we did not find the other sex attractive, then we might have died out a long time ago.

Watching pornography is detrimental for the brain and our habits. Take into consideration, “you are what you think”, are you successful, rich and wealthy, or are you horny?

 

Some people, mostly men, can’t even be in public without having inappropriate thoughts. That is distracting. What would be better thoughts and feelings to have? The love of your family, the success of your business, even just feeling good feelings towards the strangers around you instead of sexual thoughts and fantasies.

 

Think about it this way, the same way you get a bad vibe of someone entering the room, the same way someone can pick up that you are a sex lusting animal.  Something to consider next time you are out in public or at a gathering. Have control over yourself.

 

 

Ways sex can be experienced

There are a lot of different ways to have sex, and no, not in the physical sense of positions or Kamasutra. 😊

Thus, there are a lot of ways to master your sex energy. Here are a few to mention.

Can you feel the difference in each of these examples?

 

·         Wanting sex and not getting sex from your partner

·         Wanting sex and not getting sex – no partner

·         Wanting sex and getting sex – with your partner.

·         Wanting sex and getting sex – with someone other than in a relationship

·         Wanting sex and then masturbating

·         Not wanting sex but having sex with your partner (Because they want it)

·         Not wanting sex and not getting sex 😉

·         Not wanting sex and masturbating (Bored)

·         Making love

·         Transmuting the feeling and urges into goals and actions.

 

All these scenarios come with an underlying emotion. You have probably heard that sex is one of the most powerful energies in our body, it is therefore very important to have a clear intention and good reason when having sex. Sex will amplify your underlying emotions, even if you are not fully aware of it. You will notice this in retrospect and only if you do introspection.

Some of these scenarios mentioned above are underlying with guilt, resentment, regret and insecurity. Every time you have sex with these emotions, you strengthen them inside your personality.

 

People who masturbate a lot are usually insecure to meet new people. They are giving their power away instead of retaining and building their power.

Some say masturbation is good for you, that might be true in certain cases, but too much masturbation is not good, and specifically the reason or intention why you are doing it.

 

·         If you masturbate because you are board, then it’s not a good reason.

·         If you masturbate because you are lonely, then it is not a good reason.

·         If you masturbate because you feel you can never get a partner, then it is not a good reason.

 

The reason or Intention behind all our choices in life is what determines our experience in life, or, Intention creates karma.

 

Let’s use the example of masturbation for the reason of boredom. The entire process of masturbation is a build up to the orgasm.

Boredom. Have you noticed when you are sexually aroused you do not think or focus on your future goals or plans? Your attention is strongly diverted to your sexual desires. This is extremely distracting. Are you stressed? Then sit down in a quiet place and focus that energy on a plan to resolve the stressful situation. If you masturbate for stress, you are just pushing it aside and not resolving the situation. When you ‘come back’ to reality, all that energy that could be used to create has been spent on a fantasy, and the reality is still there. It is difficult to pull your mind back from your sexual desires once you have placed it there, but it is worth it every time. The key is to not allow your mind to wonder to sexual desires. Keep your focus on your goals and the path to your goals. Keep your focus on yourself, the present moment.

It is important to feel success in the moment, because success can’t be achieved, it can only be felt/experience now, in the moment. When you masturbate, you are removing yourself from the present moment and your ability to feel success, wealth, health or freedom.

The problem is, after you orgasmed, you have a sense of guilt, regret and/or shame. This is what is being amplified, and this is what you are embedding in your body with that tremendous release of energy. You are in fact creating a strong habit with the release of your sexual energy combined with the dopamine release. A habit of feeling regret or shame, even after having sex with a person.  

Sexual release is a wonderful feeling, and when released with an unfavourable intention, then you are creating and binding that intention in your body for future reference.

A lack of inner confidence.

The time you are taking to masturbate or have purposeless sex is time and energy you could be using to create the life you want. What do you want, success? Health? Wealth? Freedom? The love of your life? Try it, you can feel these feelings of creation much stronger when you are focused and have all your energy.

 

Can masturbation or sex be used for positive intent?

It is possible. In India there is a method of enlightenment by way of sex and sex energy channeling, but it is not what you think it is. Is it wise? It might be in ceremonial circumstances where you have complete control and focus. I have not tried that avenue and I do not plan to do so anytime soon. Please share if you have tried it. For now, sex transmutation is what I’m focusing on and it has proven to work.

 

Sex transmutation in practice

What you will need?

·         Clearly defined goals

·         A strong desire to achieve them

·         Strong will power and self dicipline.

·         Good habits

 

When you feel like having sex or masturbating, divert your focus to your current goals and projects you are working on. Feel the result of your goals, be it success, wealth or love. You will notice that your focus, ideas and drive for that project has increased. You will do more, think further and achieve greater results when applying sex transmutation in this way.

 

Use sex as a carrot and stick, rather than eating the carrot before the journey (instant gratification)

 

People who do not have clearly defined goals and plans tend to masturbate and have sex more often.

Men who excessively masturbate or have sex from an early age tend to spend their sexual energy on fantasising instead of building their dream life. They never really learn to master themselves and achieve big results. After all, it is easy to masturbate and release that energy and get the dopamine fix.

Ejaculation/orgasm gives you a sense of accomplishment for that moment and after the release we tend to be lazy and unmotivated. That motivation is what was needed to take the next step towards your success and goals, now you just sit there wandering what to do next. If you have a job then you know what task to do next, however the enthusiasm has left.

 

Sex transmutation is important to master from an early age, it builds strong character, habits and will power. Build a strong habit of achieving rather than releasing your energy. Habits of growing, thinking, helping others and chasing your life goals. Habits of delayed gratification.

 

One way to help with this is to teach young adolescents to set worthwhile goals and achieve them. Goals they want to pursue, not just school related goals. Teach them goals to earn money, achieve sporting and academic results they want and choose, build worthwhile relationships, learn to regulate their internal emotions, thoughts and feelings.  Teach them to achieve more inside themselves.

Sex has been misused and taken advantage off over the past decades. Sex should not be used purely for pleasure. Pleasure is the by product. As mentioned, orgasm enhances your underlying intention. If adolescents have sex for fun, popularity and acceptance, then that is the intention that is going to be enhanced, not the popularity, but the wanting to be popular. It is very damaging long term. Bearing in mind that a person’s brain still develops up until the age of around 25. The habits you build while you are a teenager is very important and will stay with you for life. 

Are you having sex out of pure love, or just pleasure. Try enhancing love next time.

 

Remember – Normal is not natural

 

Become aware

Sit and notice what kind of love you feel for your partner. Notice what kind of love you feel for yourself. Notice what kind of intention and underlying thoughts you have when you think about having sex. Notice what your thoughts, feelings and intentions are after you had sex or masturbated. This will give you an indication of what intentions you are imbedding as strong habits and personality traits.

Bearing in mind that your state of being changes when you think about having sex, to after you had sex. The animal instinct 😊

 

In conclusion

Sex is a wonderful method of expression. Used correctly will enhance your life, inside and out. Your state of being will enhance, your focus and concentration will improve. Your expectation about life will increase. Your character will improve.

However, sex is not the highest feeling you can experience in life. Unconditional love transcends all pleasures and feelings. Unconditional love can only be achieved with pure intention. Pure intentions of love and goodness. If there are any feelings or emotions of guilt, hate, insecurity etc then that will prohibit you from being in a state of unconditional love. Combine that with sex and you are setting yourself up for failure.

This is happening so slowly that you barely notice the effects immediately after, but looking back on your life you will start seeing where you could have made different choices and achieved different results.

 

Strengthen your will power next time you feel horny. Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and circumstances. Are you perhaps bored? Then focus on your goals, focus on how you would feel when you achieved your goals.  

Create such a strong, burning desire that you will not give into your lower feelings. Be careful not to just ‘have’ sex. Plan your sexual experiences, build and expand the love and success. Become greater than you ever was. Master yourself.

 

 

Let me know what your experiences are with sexual energy. Let’s learn, grow and prosper.

 

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Francois