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Comfort zones

What is a comfort zone? A place of familiarity that feels too comfortable to leave. Like being in a warm bed on a cold winter's day, it's nice, but eventually you need to get up and go to the toilet. 

A comfort zone is not always a nice (positive) place, but it is a safe place, the known. A comfort zone can be something like an abusive relationship, a bad work situation, lack of money or love or just a 'good' life, not the best life you really want. 

It is 'safe' from the responsibility of our own actions that keep us from planning and figuring out how to get to new heights or just out of our current situation. It requires little effort to stay I a comfort zone. 

A comfort zone can become a pit, an ever deepening pit if we aren't careful. As human beings, we are meant to grow and change. 

Breaking a comfort zone is a daunting task. It brings with it doubt, fear, frustration, disbelief and hard work.

This all is to ask you, do you really want this? If you decide no, it is too difficult, then you plunge back into the old familiar for another few years or until you can't bear the zone. 

Results usually come after frustration. You are being tested to your core, you are feeling bad, uncertain and frustrated with your thoughts, thinking and the lack of results in the outside world. But keep on persevering, results come after the frustration. Don't give up, never give up. Always keep your eyes on the prize. No successful person ever gave up just before the results came. 

I have recently placed myself out of my comfort zone. Well, events happened to lead me there because I didn't take the leap on my own. It put me so far out that I thought I lost a portion of myself. The feelings of having lost your identity and entity, the essence of who you are where questioned, and interrogated. Who were I the last 30 years…? and it all lead to this? To me feeling this way? It cant be. It has to be more than this. That time it was the worst thing ever, just to reflect back and see the magic the situation held for me. 

I remembered that frustration and disillusionment is part of the process of breaking free from a comfort zone, and so I persevered. It was tough and sometimes it felt lonely on the journey 

This 'zone breaking' came at a time where I needed to build a new perception of 'self' and the reality I choose to live in. I sometimes find that talking to people put you back in your comfort zone, they 'comfort' you to feel comfortable where you are now, in tour comfort zone. So choose careful who you share yourself with, you need people that uplift and support you to newer heights. 

Sometimes, you need to be frustrated with the self. Be sooo alone that you HAVE to find a solution, no one can baby you and feel sorry for you. That just keeps you in your comfort zone. Create a week or a month away from everything, alone. 

So I was amongst millions of people in India, but still alone. The English speaking ability of the people in some places is a bare minimum, uttering a selected few words and gesturing with the hands...food,toilet.. etc. Speaking to people about a deep life situation was not possible. 

It forced the mind to find resolutions within, to feel the frustration and to find a way out. 

During this comfort zone breaking, I realised that I created an uncomfort zone for myself the past few years. 

An uncomfort zone is a zone of familiarity inside your comfort zone. You don't like it, but you also don't do enough to break free from it. 

How did I break that zone? Perseverance, trust, trust the process, trust the body. It doesn't matter how you feel, keep your eyes on the prise and never deviate. You will feel down and confused. This is where faith, trust and belief comes in. Keep going, trust your judgement. Have faith in your desisions. And belief in the outcome, belief it already happened. 

I am thankful for this lesson, thankful for the events that lead to this situation. If it was not for that, I would still be searching and living inside my uncomfort zone. 

Breaking your comfort zone is not a fun place to be at, but it is worth it in the end. It only lasts a short while, then you can have the new life, the life you envisioned. 

Keep your eyes on the prize and endure the frustration. It's only a necessary part of your growth to New heights.

Get outside the zone, trust, have faith and believe. 

Injoy