What is your “Resting face”?
The Face
We are all unique in our own way, and one of the easiest
way to identify our uniqueness is by our faces and how we use it.
Here are some interesting facts about the face before we
carry on.
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A person’s face has 43 muscles
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It takes 12 muscles for a genuine smile.
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Of these 43 muscles, there are 21 mimetic facial
muscles that are directly attached to your skin that create your expressions.
We are capable of making +-10 000 unique facial expressions.
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Sincere expressions are more symmetrical than
insincere ones
So, if your facial expressions are created by muscles,
and muscles grow larger and stronger the more you use them, then your face is a
result of the facial expression/s mostly used, conscious and unconscious.
Worried face, happy face, angry face etc.
This is where your Resting Face comes in.
It is the facial expressions you have when you are not
aware of it, caused by your underlying/subconscious thoughts.
Let’s delve deeper into it.
This is your Resting
Face, or RF. This ‘face’ tells a lot
about the type of thoughts that keeps your subconscious mind busy.
Are you worried, concerned, anxious or fearful?
Or are you caring, loving, compassionate, or successful?
Your RF will also indicate if you are congruent with your
goals or if they are just dreams. Ex. Do you want to be a loving person, but
your thoughts and RF is of resentment.
We can sense from a person’s face what type of person
they are or use to be for a long time. A simple example is trust, you can often
sense if you can or can’t trust a person just by looking at a person’s face.
In order for a person to have an untrustworthy face, the
person must have un-trusting thoughts and feelings most of the time.
Thoughts like, I don’t trust in my ability do this
project successfully or up to standard. I don’t trust my partner for any
reason.
Any thoughts related to trust (Someone else or yourself)
is an indication that you have not resolved your trust with yourself. Trust
goes both ways, trusting someone else, and trusting yourself.
“Finding trust in
yourself is more difficult than finding distrust in others.”
What do I need
to look out for?
One way to realise what triggers your RF is to monitor
what you think about, what are the stories and conversations you are making up in
your mind. These stories triggers your body to respond, in twitches and
expressions.
Have you ever noticed while you sat alone that your body
has some twitches? Have you ever noticed that sometimes you hold tight/gripping
on to your body or your other hand? This also happens when you watch action
movies, swerving to the side to help guide the person away from danger. This
shows the link between the mind and body.
Be wary what you think.
So what stories do you keep having and making up in your
mind?
Is it stories of success or pain? These stories might
change in terms of characters, venues and circumstances, but the core is always
the same.
Thoughts like this;
Loss – losing something, being robbed, getting
something (Promotion or car) then it being taken away.
This can be due to thoughts of unworthiness.
Unworthiness – I want that promotion but I what if
I am not good enough for the role? I’m not good enough to maintain the job
position or partner or possession, it’s only a matter of time before it will be
over.
Being chased/wanted – Someone is always on your
case (Boss/loved one etc.). You don’t do things right hence why they are after
you.
Victim thoughts – It’s always me/my fault. Why am
I so bad at this? I don’t deserve this. It’s because of me that others are not
enjoying themselves.
Etc.
These are all stories that you might find entertaining on
a strange level, but are actually moulding your perception of reality.
To give you an example: Let’ say for instance you walk in
a mall or street and are constantly looking behind you to make sure there is no
one trying to rob you or take something away from you.
Another example: you accidentally bump into another person
and you keep on thinking and reliving the scenario for hours/days, expanding on
how it turned out, possibilities of what can happen now, “what if the person
takes me to court and says it’s all my fault. What will happen to my kids, my
job…
These stories all have a RF. If you constantly have
thoughts of worry, your face will show worry, if you have constantly thoughts
of love and caring, your face will show love and caring.
Any and every continuous thought pattern has a RF. Be
wary of your thoughts.
How can I
change?
From a very young age until your present state of being,
your RF is in a continuous state of development and redevelopment. This
development is directly influenced by your consciousness and unconscious state
of mind of past, present and future experiences. It is therefore of utmost
importance to become aware of your thought patterns and emotions…etc.
One way I found to successfully make a positive change is
to actively monitor the thoughts, stories and conversation that are constructed
in my mind
Change your stories, change your life.
One way to change your RF, is to change your stories in
your mind.
When you catch yourself making up stories again, stop,
and consciously start thinking about new thoughts, thoughts you rather want to
have, thought that gives you the RF you want. J
You will have to plan the new story ahead of time though,
in order to replace the old story in that moment, else your mind will go back
quickly to the old familiar story.
“You can’t change
something if you don’t know what you are changing it too.”
Examples:
I feel my work is never good enough.
Story to replace it with…
I’m walking in my office building and everywhere I go I
get compliments on my work delivery or way I handled clients. I feel good when
I walk in the office. etc.
I’m at the bottom of the food chain, people always take
advantage of me.
Story to replace it with…
People treat me like I want to be treated, with respect,
honour, trust etc.
Exaggerate, give your mind something to hold on too, to
build and expand on. Exaggerate your stories.
What is your ideal life? How does it look like? And more
importantly, how does it feel like.
If you noticed, your life pretty much turns out the way
you expect it to turn out. Change your expectations, change your story, and
change your life.
This will help release the past thoughts that caused your
current/previous RF.
The process might take time for some people, as you need
to accept and forgive to let go. Some RF’s are from grudges and resentments
towards loved ones, going back to early ears.
The most difficult part is realising and recognising that
you had a major part in creating your RF, to turn the blame around into
responsibility and taking action to change it. Nothing is set in stone. Change
By practicing and mastering this technique, will lead to
emotional freedom. Freedom to think and feel what you want, when you want it.
How important is emotional freedom for you…?
All this work is simple, the difficult part is
self-discipline.
Accept this challenge and change your RF to a joyous
face.
Happy thinking and feeling.
Remember, Change
your story, change your life.
Love
Peace
Injoy
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