Do parents’ actions have an impact on the personality building of their children?

Children learn by example, not by word. It is very important for a parent to have their "sh*t" together when raising a child. if you don’t, you are just making a copy of your bad behaviour. We should as parents always strive to raise children that will become better than us. This we do by leading by example. A lot of parents have not learnt this concept yet and do not fully understand the importance of this concept. 

Small children build the foundation of their personalities when they are very young. What most people/parents don’t recognise is that young children do not learn verbally, but emotionally. We have the ability to feel a large range of feelings and emotions, to such extend that every word and sentence carries its own emotion and feeling. Ex, when you say something angrily towards your child if they do something wrong (in your eyes), they feel your reaction/emotion and react differently than if you would say the same sentence in a calm manner. 

It is very important to note what your emotional state is when speaking to any person. Children are more aware/susceptible to emotions/feelings than adults, mostly because adults have shielded themselves from negative emotions for protection, resulting that adults these days are only aware of a small range of emotions. If we are able to drown out the noise of our mind and focus on our feelings, we should be able to communicate without words, by just holding the intention and feelings in our being. 

People build the foundation of their personalities when they are very young. (Birth to pre-teens)

If a father does not play with his son, the child might grow up to believe that his father is not meant to have a playful relationship with his son. This is seen in a lot of cultures where subordination to elders is part of the education. 

This also counts for playing as well as building a relationship with the child. There are a lot of adults that do not have strong relationships with their parents. 

Children learn by the examples they observe and feel from their parents. If the father gets angry easily at his mother, the example he/she learns is to become angry at women to get his way. 

A father who helps in the kitchen after dinner send a completely different lesson than the father who do not. Some lessons in this example are lessons about caring, equality, fun in cleaning. 

Children should be raised as part of the unit of the family, not a subordinate being there to make the lives of adults easier. 

Build the basis of respect and friendship while your child is young. “Respect” is a key lesson to learn, and respect goes both ways. If you are unable to respect your partner, then your child will also have a lack of respect towards one or both parents. 

Parents should own up to their behaviour and not punish their children for lessons they have inadvertently taught their children. If you see behavioural issues, then you should review your personal life. Children copy their parents before they start building their own personality. 

Make a habit to play and talk to your children. If you miss out on this stage, you might not get it back. Resulting in you staying in an old age home only getting visited once a year. 

Make the effort, build a strong, loving relationship with your kids now, while they are kids. 

Happy living.

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