Can I use my sex energy to achieve my goals?

By the end of this read, you will have an understanding of what sex transmutation is, how to practice it and what you can expect.

 

What is sex transmutation and what does it mean for me?

Sex transmutation is re-directing the mind from thoughts of physical expression to thoughts of another creative effort. 

Transmuting your sexual energy, at its most potent form, involves abstaining from all sexual activity or content, whether it is sex, masturbation or pornography and harnessing this energy for other endeavours.

 

One of the first people who has spoken about sex transmutation is Napoleon Hill in his book “Think and Grow rich.” Which I would highly recommend reading and studying.

The concept of sex transmutation is foreign and somewhat difficult to get our heads wrapped around, especially in today’s world where there is so much emphasis placed on sex, beauty and arousal.

In this article, we will break it down a bit, we discuss the experience of practicing sex transmutation and what to expect when practising it. The thoughts and feelings.

 

(This is written from a males perspective and results may vary for females 😊 lets open this discussion to learn)

 

So, lets get into it. 😉

 

 

Sex is not new to us, after all, that is how we came to be here.

Believe it or not, sexual energy is extremely potent. Try working while you are thinking of sex. It is very distracting. If you are thinking about sex with someone else other than your partner, then you are adding some extra emotions and intentions to the equation, like guilt, resentment, insecurity, coveting, lust, unfaithful and many more. These emotions are better left uninvited. We live in a world where we are bombarded with sexual innuendos in our media and advertising. Sexual images of beautiful people, arousing sounds and colours, these all have an impact on our subconscious thinking and behaviour. We can see the result of this in our current lives and environments. It almost seems like people have forgotten who and what they are. It is almost as if people have been taken over by their sexual urges and desires, and worst is that people think it is natural.

 

“Normal does not equal natural”

 

Thinking about sex a lot distracts you from what is important. It builds false ideas about love and relationships and is probably the greatest cause of failed relationships. A relationship is not just about sex, especially if sex is used incorrectly. Sex should be used to build stronger love, not to release stress or for pleasure alone. If you need sex for that, then you are doing something wrong. Rather change your diet and exercise for stress relieve.

Watching porn is the greatest downfall of our modern world. Seeing naked people affects our subconscious mind, it triggers thoughts and feelings that we do not consciously choose, therefore it takes control over us. It then leads to the release of energy in a manner not fully intended too. Example, it’s better to think about your loved ones and expand the love for them than to watch other people have sex. The time you spent watching porn is time lost, the energy you spent on watching porn is energy lost. This time and energy should be directed to your goals, visions and desires.

 

It takes about 3 days for an adult male in his 30s to regain his energy (focus and intention) after releasing his sexual energy through masturbation. This does not mean it takes 3 days before you can have sex again, it takes about 3 days for you to regain full control over yourself, your focus and your feelings and the ability to direct your intentions.

This focus, feeling and intentions are in line with your goals. If you don’t have goals, then having sex or masturbating a lot is probably part of your regular routine. Identifiable by frustration.

 

 

Winners do not sit at home masturbating because they can’t get the guy or girl. Winners work on themselves, get better and go out and make it happen.

 

‘Where attention goes, energy flows’

 

This statement is very true and can be clearly noticed when it comes to sex and sexual thoughts, especially in men. Thinking with our second brain.. 😊

Sex transmutation comes perfectly with this statement. If you notice your attention going to your groin area or the ‘gutters’, then pull it out immediately to something more productive. That’s why it is important to have strong goals and desires. Use that time to design your perfect life, plan actions and act on those plans. (This is sexual transmutation in a nutshell)

 

 

Our sex drive is one of our most potent forces we have access to.

Because our sex drive is such a powerful energy, thinking of sex almost makes us unconscious. We don’t really think anymore, we are led by our urges and desires.

 

Thinking of sex or an attractive person in a sexual way distracts our mind from what can be important. Sexual thoughts or fantasies can occupy our mind for long periods of times, hours and sometimes days, lingering in the subconscious mind and noticing everything sexy and attractive in your eyesight’s. That is wasted time that could have been used somewhere else more meaningful. Think about it, you sit at the office, fantasising about your attractive co-worker. This is distracting you from your work. All good and well, it’s just a job at a company. But it really gets you when you are self-employed or an entrepreneur where every minute counts.

 

Have you noticed that after you had sex that the drive and ambition to ‘achieve’ has left you? (Excuse the pun)

 

That is time and energy you could have used to build your business, get new ideas, or make those phone calls that you need some ‘balls’ to do. (Some more puns 😊)

 

Porn is for losers, winners go out and get what they want to experience.

 

Today we have access to more naked people than any time in history at a click of a button. Even Casanova, who was revered as being very popular with the ladies in the 1700’s, never saw as many naked women as we have access to today on the internet.

There are strong psychological triggers in our brains that gets triggered when we see naked people. Studies have shown that seeing images of naked people release dopamine in the brain, the pleasure chemical. Part of this is due to our need to reproduce. If we did not find the other sex attractive, then we might have died out a long time ago.

Watching pornography is detrimental for the brain and our habits. Take into consideration, “you are what you think”, are you successful, rich and wealthy, or are you horny?

 

Some people, mostly men, can’t even be in public without having inappropriate thoughts. That is distracting. What would be better thoughts and feelings to have? The love of your family, the success of your business, even just feeling good feelings towards the strangers around you instead of sexual thoughts and fantasies.

 

Think about it this way, the same way you get a bad vibe of someone entering the room, the same way someone can pick up that you are a sex lusting animal.  Something to consider next time you are out in public or at a gathering. Have control over yourself.

 

 

Ways sex can be experienced

There are a lot of different ways to have sex, and no, not in the physical sense of positions or Kamasutra. 😊

Thus, there are a lot of ways to master your sex energy. Here are a few to mention.

Can you feel the difference in each of these examples?

 

·         Wanting sex and not getting sex from your partner

·         Wanting sex and not getting sex – no partner

·         Wanting sex and getting sex – with your partner.

·         Wanting sex and getting sex – with someone other than in a relationship

·         Wanting sex and then masturbating

·         Not wanting sex but having sex with your partner (Because they want it)

·         Not wanting sex and not getting sex 😉

·         Not wanting sex and masturbating (Bored)

·         Making love

·         Transmuting the feeling and urges into goals and actions.

 

All these scenarios come with an underlying emotion. You have probably heard that sex is one of the most powerful energies in our body, it is therefore very important to have a clear intention and good reason when having sex. Sex will amplify your underlying emotions, even if you are not fully aware of it. You will notice this in retrospect and only if you do introspection.

Some of these scenarios mentioned above are underlying with guilt, resentment, regret and insecurity. Every time you have sex with these emotions, you strengthen them inside your personality.

 

People who masturbate a lot are usually insecure to meet new people. They are giving their power away instead of retaining and building their power.

Some say masturbation is good for you, that might be true in certain cases, but too much masturbation is not good, and specifically the reason or intention why you are doing it.

 

·         If you masturbate because you are board, then it’s not a good reason.

·         If you masturbate because you are lonely, then it is not a good reason.

·         If you masturbate because you feel you can never get a partner, then it is not a good reason.

 

The reason or Intention behind all our choices in life is what determines our experience in life, or, Intention creates karma.

 

Let’s use the example of masturbation for the reason of boredom. The entire process of masturbation is a build up to the orgasm.

Boredom. Have you noticed when you are sexually aroused you do not think or focus on your future goals or plans? Your attention is strongly diverted to your sexual desires. This is extremely distracting. Are you stressed? Then sit down in a quiet place and focus that energy on a plan to resolve the stressful situation. If you masturbate for stress, you are just pushing it aside and not resolving the situation. When you ‘come back’ to reality, all that energy that could be used to create has been spent on a fantasy, and the reality is still there. It is difficult to pull your mind back from your sexual desires once you have placed it there, but it is worth it every time. The key is to not allow your mind to wonder to sexual desires. Keep your focus on your goals and the path to your goals. Keep your focus on yourself, the present moment.

It is important to feel success in the moment, because success can’t be achieved, it can only be felt/experience now, in the moment. When you masturbate, you are removing yourself from the present moment and your ability to feel success, wealth, health or freedom.

The problem is, after you orgasmed, you have a sense of guilt, regret and/or shame. This is what is being amplified, and this is what you are embedding in your body with that tremendous release of energy. You are in fact creating a strong habit with the release of your sexual energy combined with the dopamine release. A habit of feeling regret or shame, even after having sex with a person.  

Sexual release is a wonderful feeling, and when released with an unfavourable intention, then you are creating and binding that intention in your body for future reference.

A lack of inner confidence.

The time you are taking to masturbate or have purposeless sex is time and energy you could be using to create the life you want. What do you want, success? Health? Wealth? Freedom? The love of your life? Try it, you can feel these feelings of creation much stronger when you are focused and have all your energy.

 

Can masturbation or sex be used for positive intent?

It is possible. In India there is a method of enlightenment by way of sex and sex energy channeling, but it is not what you think it is. Is it wise? It might be in ceremonial circumstances where you have complete control and focus. I have not tried that avenue and I do not plan to do so anytime soon. Please share if you have tried it. For now, sex transmutation is what I’m focusing on and it has proven to work.

 

Sex transmutation in practice

What you will need?

·         Clearly defined goals

·         A strong desire to achieve them

·         Strong will power and self dicipline.

·         Good habits

 

When you feel like having sex or masturbating, divert your focus to your current goals and projects you are working on. Feel the result of your goals, be it success, wealth or love. You will notice that your focus, ideas and drive for that project has increased. You will do more, think further and achieve greater results when applying sex transmutation in this way.

 

Use sex as a carrot and stick, rather than eating the carrot before the journey (instant gratification)

 

People who do not have clearly defined goals and plans tend to masturbate and have sex more often.

Men who excessively masturbate or have sex from an early age tend to spend their sexual energy on fantasising instead of building their dream life. They never really learn to master themselves and achieve big results. After all, it is easy to masturbate and release that energy and get the dopamine fix.

Ejaculation/orgasm gives you a sense of accomplishment for that moment and after the release we tend to be lazy and unmotivated. That motivation is what was needed to take the next step towards your success and goals, now you just sit there wandering what to do next. If you have a job then you know what task to do next, however the enthusiasm has left.

 

Sex transmutation is important to master from an early age, it builds strong character, habits and will power. Build a strong habit of achieving rather than releasing your energy. Habits of growing, thinking, helping others and chasing your life goals. Habits of delayed gratification.

 

One way to help with this is to teach young adolescents to set worthwhile goals and achieve them. Goals they want to pursue, not just school related goals. Teach them goals to earn money, achieve sporting and academic results they want and choose, build worthwhile relationships, learn to regulate their internal emotions, thoughts and feelings.  Teach them to achieve more inside themselves.

Sex has been misused and taken advantage off over the past decades. Sex should not be used purely for pleasure. Pleasure is the by product. As mentioned, orgasm enhances your underlying intention. If adolescents have sex for fun, popularity and acceptance, then that is the intention that is going to be enhanced, not the popularity, but the wanting to be popular. It is very damaging long term. Bearing in mind that a person’s brain still develops up until the age of around 25. The habits you build while you are a teenager is very important and will stay with you for life. 

Are you having sex out of pure love, or just pleasure. Try enhancing love next time.

 

Remember – Normal is not natural

 

Become aware

Sit and notice what kind of love you feel for your partner. Notice what kind of love you feel for yourself. Notice what kind of intention and underlying thoughts you have when you think about having sex. Notice what your thoughts, feelings and intentions are after you had sex or masturbated. This will give you an indication of what intentions you are imbedding as strong habits and personality traits.

Bearing in mind that your state of being changes when you think about having sex, to after you had sex. The animal instinct 😊

 

In conclusion

Sex is a wonderful method of expression. Used correctly will enhance your life, inside and out. Your state of being will enhance, your focus and concentration will improve. Your expectation about life will increase. Your character will improve.

However, sex is not the highest feeling you can experience in life. Unconditional love transcends all pleasures and feelings. Unconditional love can only be achieved with pure intention. Pure intentions of love and goodness. If there are any feelings or emotions of guilt, hate, insecurity etc then that will prohibit you from being in a state of unconditional love. Combine that with sex and you are setting yourself up for failure.

This is happening so slowly that you barely notice the effects immediately after, but looking back on your life you will start seeing where you could have made different choices and achieved different results.

 

Strengthen your will power next time you feel horny. Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and circumstances. Are you perhaps bored? Then focus on your goals, focus on how you would feel when you achieved your goals.  

Create such a strong, burning desire that you will not give into your lower feelings. Be careful not to just ‘have’ sex. Plan your sexual experiences, build and expand the love and success. Become greater than you ever was. Master yourself.

 

 

Let me know what your experiences are with sexual energy. Let’s learn, grow and prosper.

 

Live SourceFull

Francois

Turning fear into favour - Mastering fear for growth

 

·        What is fear?

·        Should we be afraid of fear?

·        Can I use fear instead of being crippled by fear?

·        How can I use fear for my favour?

 

Have you heard the saying, “There is nothing to fear but fear itself?”

After reading this article, you will understand this statement and how to overcome fear. As well as to have a better understanding how to manage your fear emotion and make it work for you.

 

Let’s dive in.

We will never be able to rid ourselves from fear completely. Fear is part of the cycles of life. (i.e. There is no happiness without sadness, there is no courage without fear.)

 

Let’s break down fear a bit.

Fear is an unpleasant emotion/feeling caused by the perceived threat of danger, pain, or harm, real or imagined.

Fear is a response.

Fear is an instinctive response to protect us from a perceived danger.

It is a strong emotional response to a perceived threat or danger.

Danger is real, Fear is a choice

 

Makes sense? Fear is coming from withing, not without. A danger can be on the outside, but does not mean you should feel fear on the inside. In order to be courageous in a dangerous situation, you can not allow fear to overpower you. An example are soldiers or the police. If they were crippled by fear in a dangerous situation, the outcomes would look a lot different.

 

When we say ‘perceived’ threat, it means that there might be a real threat or not, it depends on the meaning we as an individual give it.

For example, some people are afraid of dogs while others are not. The dog fearing person will avoid dogs and trigger a fear response in their body while the dog loving person will not have that fearful response or feelings. The dog stays the same, it’s the meaning we give it that change.

 

Fear is thus a learnt response. We can say, fear is an emotional response due to a mental thought. Can we go as far as to say that fear is a learnt response? Let’s say something happens to you that you do not like and you want to avoid it in the future, like a dog or a type of person, so you teach your body to feel fear in order to avoid the perceived pain(Dog or type of relationship).

 

 

Becoming aware of fear

Fear is an emotion/feeling. When we refuse to feel or acknowledge fear, we suppress it. Supressing any emotion never did us any good, even if it is something we do not like or want to feel. Suppressing fear is like spring loading fear, eventually it will pop up all at once.

 

Here are some questions to become more aware of fear.

·        You do not have to accept fear or let it overpower you, however you must be aware of it, notice it.  Where did it come from?

·        What thoughts created this feeling of fear inside me?

·        Is it necessary to feel it?

·        Is it necessary to allow it to overpower me?

·        What do I rather want to feel and experience?

·        What actions can I take to feel a better emotion that is more aligned with my goals?

·        Do I have clear goals? Not having clearly defined goals and plans tend to lead to fearful and uncertain feelings.)

 

If you can identify the thought that made you feel fear, then you can stop, notice and change the thought.

 

Here is the “stop, drop and roll” of fear.

 

Stop – Stop what you are thinking

Drop – the emotion from your body

Roll – turn the emotions around into a favourable feeling and experience

Remember, thoughts create emotions. Manage tour thoughts and your emotions will be your servants.

 

How can I start to control my fear emotions and thoughts?

 

Train your brain with awareness exercises.

By far one of the best methods is solitude. Briefly, how do solitude work? By sitting alone for 30minutes to an hour in a quiet and undisturbed location and only observing how your body feels. Be aware of it. Use your breathing as a focus point the entire time to bring you back from your thoughts to the present moment of feeling. 

 

When you start noticing thoughts that trigger fear inside you, you are then able to change those thoughts. To what do I change them? You might ask.

To what you really want. That is the reason clearly defined strong goals are so important. If you do not have proper goals, then any fear will overpower you.

After you have identified the fear, create a strategy to change the fearful thoughts to courageous thoughts instead. When that fear thought pops up, immediately change your thoughts to that of your goals, to that what you rather want to experience, and feel your desired emotion instead. It will take work and effort, but the payoff is life changing.

Let say it will take you 6months to make these changes inside you to have no fear for that thought anymore. 6 months sound long, but what is 6 months of the rest of your life? 6 months looking forward is very long, but 6 months looking back after 20 years, is a drop in the ocean.

 

Make the decisions that is important for your future self. Trust the process and enjoy the change.

Your future self will be very grateful.

 

Remember, Fear is a choice, choose wisely how.

 

Live SourceFull

 

Francois

Here is how you can use your habits to your advantage

What are habits? 

How does habits serve us?

Can we employ habits to serve us?

How does habits play a role in forming our life as we know it?

Are we not just a bunch of habits?

What habits are you?

 

 

Wikipedia define habits as follows.

A habit is a routine of behaviour that is repeated regularly and tends to occur subconsciously. The American Journal of Psychology defined a "habit, from the standpoint of psychology, [as] a more or less fixed way of thinking, willing, or feeling acquired through previous repetition of a mental experience."

 

Habits are very interesting. Habits may serve us or drive us to our own destruction. Some build habits of love and prosperity and others build habits of destruction and gloom. (Addictions, poverty, bad friends, emotional addiction)

 

If you look at the successful people in the world, they have built their life around success habit. Habits that is supporting the life they want and desire.

All habits are difficult to start and build, but once you have set the habit in place, then it is on auto pilot and you can focus on enjoying the experience of that habit.

 

A reason it is so difficult for people over in the 30s and up to change is, because of all the habits they have formed when they were younger. If you formed bad habits, then it is very difficult to change them, but possible. It is very important for young children to form good habits early on, habits that support a powerful thinking, to make their life easier later on.

Build success habits and good relationship habits. Plan your life. Help your children to plan their lives and help them create the habits they need. If you don’t know, then ask someone who does now.

 

Building habits

It is said that it takes about 21 days to form a new habit, just to be safe use 30 days. After doing an activity for 30 days in a row you will feel as if it is part of your life and routine. Take exercise for example.

When you start it is very nice for the first few days, then it becomes very daunting to even think of going to the gym. It is your old habits that is trying to keep the status quo, the ego does not like change.

However, if you persist and continue going to the gym everyday if you feel like it or not, then after 30 days it will feel awkward not going to the gym. You have an empty feeling, like ‘what am I going to do with myself now.’ Which is good, then you take your body to the gym again and repeat.

This is in a nutshell how to build habits. Easy, right?

The concept is easy, the will power is the hard part. Life happens so slowly for us on the inside, that you never realise the small progress or regress you make on a daily basis. Skipping one day might feel like its ok, but that leads to another day, then a week pass and sooner than later you are out of shape, unhealthy and back to your old habits.

Part of building habits is having a strong ‘will’, and even will power if formed by building a habit around strong will power.

 

(Will power is built by practicing your ‘will’, like doing what you said you will do no matter what. If you said you are going to the gym every day, then go to the gym every day, that is what builds will power, sticking to your commitments.)

 

Successful people know how to build habits and use it to their advantage

 

Once you realise how important a strong ‘will’ is for building habits, and you feel like you do not have a strong ‘will, then perhaps you should consider a strong will to be one of your first habits you need to build.

 

What if I want to strengthen my “will”, how would I do that? 

 

The exercises are simple yet effective. Any subconscious work needs time and repetition, so stick to it. These methods make changes in your subconscious mind. It changes the way you process a certain situation or happening. For example. If you have a habit of sticking to your commitments, then you will also plan to be where you said you will be. Because you already know you are going to a certain place or event, there is no reason for you to complain or to make up fake excuses in your head of why you do not want to be there.

 

These exercises change a set of thoughts and expectations that influence the way you experience life.   

 

Stick to your commitments – You know those moments you talk to yourself in your head? When you make those empty commitments? Like, “tomorrow, I’m going to the gym.”

Just because no other person can hear you does not make that commitment less important. In fact, it makes it more important. You are the most important person in your life. Don’t disrespect yourself.

Stick to your commitments. There is always a good reason you made them, not to break them.

Create a new habit, something inline with your goals. Romance, career, life etc

 

“I am going to do my taxes tomorrow after work, this time I promise.”  If you say to yourself that you are going to do something, then it is a good idea you follow through with your word, even if you don’t feel like it, even if it rains, just do it. You will feel better after doing it in unfavourable conditions than the excuse you made up for avoiding it. Build that will.

 

Create a challenge – Create a challenge for yourself where you can practice implementing your will power. Like going to the gym or start an exercise routine for 30 days in a row. Don’t skip a day, you are building a new habit. Remember to do it, weather you feel like it or not. You might eventually notice either way is your choice, to feel like it or not to feel like it. Make the best choice for your future self.

 

After you have built an exercise habit, you will feel empowered to build another habit. Do it when the inspiration is there, ride the wave of change. Set another goal and build another habit.

 

‘Will’ power is strengthened by practicing your will, sticking to your commitments. Even the ones you make to yourself. 

 

Your life experience is just a bunch of habits. The time you wake up. The food you eat. Your morning routine. The thoughts you think. The reactions you have.

You are your habits.

 

Creating your next habit?

What habits should I create next?

It all depends what your goals are. Its always good to start with the body, create a good healthy habit (Exercise and diet). The body is easily adaptable, meaning you get easily used to your circumstances and surroundings. If you think eating healthy is less tasty, give it a month and you would have forgotten how you use to eat and accept the new diet.

Life has formulas for us to use, use it to your advantage, don’t be the victim of life, be the master. Choose good feelings above unhealthy food. There are a lot of benefits from a healthy diet.

As you are mastering this habit, you will start to become aware of how it is unfolding and you can make changes as you are going along to your goals.

You will notice that you will need another skill or way of thinking. Perhaps you should get your temper under control. Now you start the process of creating a habit for his new skill.

 

In this case, choose a way you would rather want to react instead of angry. Find ways to use this new way of reacting and implement it.

Make a commitment to change

And stick to it.

 

Some habits run deeper than others. For example, to change a behaviour like anger, you need to go to the source and change it. You have to work out ‘thinking’ and ‘reacting’ plans in your head.

In contrast…

To get your body in shape, you need to get your body exercising.

That’s why its best to start with your body habits before you go into your mental and emotional habits.

 

You will always know what habit to create next. Trust yourself.

 

As you create and master these habits, you will notice that you do not consciously have to implement these behaviours anymore, it is on auto pilot. In fact, it feels awkward if you do not do these habits.

Choose how you would like to be in life, and figure out what habits you need to live that life. It will take you some planning, nut it is planning worth making.

 

What habits are important for you?

What habit do you need to implement immediately?

 

Share your experience with habits. Let’s grow together.

 

Live a SourceFull life

 

Francois

How to escape the cycle of negative learning?

 

Is it possible to learn from good experiences instead of bad and stressful situations?

 

It seems to be easier to learn and grow from a dark place, the light seems brighter from there. This principle follows the rule of ‘cycles of experience’. There is no up without down, there is no tall without short, there is no light without darkness, no happiness without sadness. In order for you to know one, you must know the other.

The cycles also scale up and down. In other words, tall and short goes in infinity, happiness and sadness work in degrees, for you to know what immense happiness is you will need to experience immense sadness.

 

 

 

This is the normal method we tend to take when we learn and grow. We dig ourself a hole just to climb out and experience the up end.

This should not be the only and best method to go by, should it? There must be a different way. That way is by learning from the up end and staying in the up end.

 

How does it work? How do we stay in the ‘up end’?

 

·        Self dicipline – you must do what is right and stick to it even if you don’t feel like it

·        In order to stay in the up end, you must learn to have an attitude of gratitude. Having an attitude of gratitude will keep you from questioning the up end and will allow you to stay there. Learn to be grateful for everything and every situation.

·        Journal about your progress daily. Journal what you wanted to achieve and the emotions/feelings you want to experience and your progress towards it.

At the end of your day, sit and reflect on the day that has passed, and find all the situations where you felt good or great. Write them down and see what made you feel that way. What thoughts or actions triggered them? Can you replicate those events again to feel those feelings? Can you summon feeling at will where you are sitting now?

·        How can you re-create a situation tomorrow that will make you feel that good again? What can you add to increase that feeling? How long can you maintain that feeling? What will your day look like if you plan your day in advance to feel and experience that greatness again?

 

Next, turn the cycle into a spiral, an upward spiral. Just as you can go into a downward spiral of depression, you are able to go into an upward spiral of motivation. You just need a method.

The key is to ride the wave, build habits around growing from positive events instead of difficult ‘negative’ events.

Congratulate yourself when you get a new habit right.

Encourage yourself to be fearless.

Remind yourself to stay at the top of the spiral.

Staying at the top of the spiral requires effort and concentration, especially at the start.

 

This is part of what I call “Life planning”, planning your life the way you want to feel in it, what you want to experience. Afterall, what you think and what you feel is about the only control you have in your life, so plan it out and build the best life experience you can.

 

 

Here are a few things to keep in mind when using this method.

·        When you stay too long in the up end, you get used to it and do not notice that you are there, that you are happy, in love, rich, accepted etc. I.e. You tend to forget you are so happy that you ask the question, “but am I really happy? Do I deserve this? What is happiness?” Those questions by itself start the cycle again and will bring you sadness so you can see what happiness is again, or difficult times to show you the good times. Get it?

·        It is important to maintain a journal to remind you of what you are doing and how you feel.

It is important to keep a journal of gratitude. A gratitude journal will keep you in the up end and will justify it. Without the gratitude journal you will forget to remain grateful and start questioning life around you. Questions like, am I really this grateful? Am I really deserving of this love or this money? Keeping that journal will reinforce your gratitude state and keep on finding reasons to be grateful.

 

In short, have an attitude of gratitude and plan your day. Plan your life. An attitude of gratitude will keep you from questioning your life. All questions in life will be answered for you, so avoid asking damaging questions. Gratitude will keep your mind on the good in your life. What you think about you bring about.

 

Love and happiness my friends

Francois Conradie